Female genital warts or HPV can really trump on a woman’s self esteem especially when it comes to dating. While some fortunate young woman with this STD may not find them bothersome, others may feel as though the very existence of them has ruined their chances of having a relatively normal sexual relationship. Lets not even mention how gross those little buggers can look, but the medical procedures involved can be…well awkward. It is…stressful. Well, ladies, truth is, we are more susceptible to developing HPV, so the least we can do after the unlikely event of a diagnosis, is arm ourselves to deal with it. This doesn’t have to mean the end of your dating life. Here are a few tips on how to still have healthy dating life.
First things first, it’s absolutely important that you search the far ends of the internet, the dusty crevices of library shelves and every brochure in your doctor’s office learn all there is to know about the virus. The better educated you are, the easier it is for you to tell your partner, or future partners and answer their questions. While acquiring this knowledge, make sure to learn the facts and stay away from the myths and hype.
Like with any other sexually transmitted disease, it is important that you let your partner know of your status. Had the roles been reversed, you would have appreciated it. This may seem scary at first, especially if it’s with a new partner. First of all, while there shouldn’t be a rush in the initial stages to tell them, it is best to do it after some comfort has been established. Preferably, not the moment before he climbs into the sack. You want to build a trust with the person first, because let’s be honest…there is no point blurting it out on the first date. In addition, with your new knowledge, you should be comfortable and confident to explain to them and answer their questions.
Scary truth is, while condoms may reduce the risk of contracting HPV, it does not provide complete protection. The virus can affect areas that are not covered by the condom, so although this is highly recommended, it is still a risk. This goes for oral sex as well.
This is always an option. There are vaccines available to men and women that will protect against most genital warts (namely Cervarix for women and Gardasil for women and men). It is important that you are informed about them so that you can make this suggestion to your partner.
This may be a good reason to be very prudish. Limiting the number of persons who have physical contact with wouldn’t be such a bad idea. If you are in a relationship, it is wise to remain faithful. In addition, if you are with a long term partner and found out you have HPV, there is no alarm. This doesn’t mean you have done something wrong. There shouldn’t be shame or guilt as it is highly likely that the virus was dormant in your system for years without symptoms. You need to convey this to your partner, and know a few references or websites that you can direct him to.
This isn’t a play to get you to drink more water or start eating more fruits and vegetables (although that isn’t a bad thing). But in fact, the best treatment for any sort of ailment is our immune system. Regular exercise and a healthy balanced diet will keep your immune system in tip top shape and this increase your fighting chances of the HPV going away on its own. Yes, even high-risk HPV can go away on their own if your immune system is strong enough. So think about this next time choosing Cheetos over Yogurt at the supermarket.
Bottom line of all this ladies, don’t panic or go into a lonely glum feeling as if this is the end of your “relationship career”. The diagnosis can only rain on your parade if you let it. Prepare yourself, build confidence and take care of your body. Don’t let HPV dictate your life.